Guest Post by Tonja Weimer
Are you aware that there are some cultural lies, deeply embedded in our thoughts, that keep us from finding love?
Are you waiting to meet someone special? Would you like to fall in love? Are you tired of waiting to find your soul mate? If you’re single…and, you’re honest…the answer to that would be a big yes!
The dream of falling in love is accompanied by a lot of MYTHS that keep us in a perpetual state of waiting. Some predominant ones are:
Lie #1. Love should just happen…you shouldn’t have to go looking for it.
Are you waiting for that myth to come true? Do you think you can keep showing up at work, or hanging out with your friends and family, over and over, and expect that dream to happen? Do you feel like there is something wrong with you because it hasn’t happened yet? This myth is so deeply embedded in our culture some people are embarrassed to even admit they’d like to find someone. But if you believe in this myth, the odds are, you are going to always be…waiting.
Lie #2. Prince (or Princess) Charming is going to ride into your life at any minute.
This myth would have you believe that you don’t have to do anything to meet someone. You could be sitting on your couch with the cat and a bag of Doritos, and he will come galloping up, swoop you into loving arms, and whisk you away to a happy life. Are you secretly waiting for this? Didn’t your mother tell you that if some guy comes riding up to your house on a white horse, wearing ballet tights and a feather in his hat…you’d better lock the doors! Waiting to meet Prince Charming without the knowledge and skills of understanding if he is the right one, is a set up to a relationship of disappointment.
Lie #3. You need to lose X amount of pounds, save some money, get cosmetic surgery, etc. etc. first.
Is this what’s holding you back from having the life you want? If it is, haven’t you noticed that people who are much larger, poorer, and have much bigger noses than you do have a relationship? Are you truly working toward a realistic goal of when you’ll be ready to date…or, do you have some extraordinary excuses?
Many people are attached to all kinds of reasons because it ‘s easier than facing fears, learning new skills, and ultimately, taking responsibility for being happy. However, you can do something about it. Banish the lies and get ready to roll up your sleeves. It takes the kind of work and actions that you can learn.
Consider these questions to help you get started:
- Are you crystal clear about who and what you are looking for? If not, make a list of your absolute requirements for a mate.
- Do you know the hidden secrets of attraction? Begin with Like Attracts Like and become the person you are looking for.
- Do you understand what messages you are sending with your body language? Study what comprises body language. For instance, did you know that crossed arms means “don’t come near”?
- Have you developed a vision for what you want your life and relationship to look like? It helps to have a picture of what you want before you can take the actions to get it.
Answering these questions and unraveling the lies are part of what is required if you want to date and fall in love. You can do it.
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